There is no method to fun
Step 3: Establish a hypothesis
If _____[I do this] _____, then _____[this]_____ will happen.
Step 4: Test hypothesis by conducting an experiment
Step 5: Analyze the results and draw a conclusion. …
Step 6: Present the findings
I’ve hit a speed bump that has slowed me all the way down to a complete stop. But, it’s not getting me down or upset. I just don’t want to do much of anything except learn about feeling joy and pleasure in all areas of my life. I guess you could say, I’m busy actually living life. And it’s fun. And that was the point of researching how I was fun. To realize what was fun to me and how I showed up with fun. Without even realizing it, I have answered the question “How am I fun?” and I didn’t even have to fully research it, consciously analyze it, check to make sure the result was replicable. I guess I didn’t need the scientific method to answer it. I only needed it to provide me structure to start figuring it out. My brain took over from there and then just did what it does best — answers questions. And it apparently has fun doing that.
I went on vacation. And I just left all of this behind while I was there. And kept it in a pile, off to the side for a bit when I returned. I didn’t know what to write about my quest for fun. I didn’t know how to weave it into some fun and interesting story. I didn’t know how to make an amazing vacation be a structured form to fit my scientific method.
But, I have realized I actually know quite a lot that I was ignoring.
I realized I know that you can be quiet and fun. I realized I had this thought that to be fun it had to be advertised to some extent. Other people needed to be able to see it. But, on vacation, I had so much fun. I was so much fun. And I didn’t change anything about me or what I do outwardly for others. I just enjoyed myself and followed the fun. I played in the ocean and it was the most fun I’ve had in a long time. I didn’t yell, make a scene, or even make much noise to make sure others saw all the fun I was having. I let it just be me. I can be fun and strong and still be a quiet person. You can’t “action” your way into new thoughts. It goes the other way. I can’t follow a step by step instruction manual to get to the point when I finally think “Oh, that’s all completed. Now I am fun.”. I have to think “I am fun. I have fun. This is fun!” and the fun will come from that.
I realized that steps 3–6 were all done without me even realizing it. They were done in quick succession. Unconscious thoughts “Oh, this doesn’t seem fun. I’ll stop” or “OH! This is the most fun ever and I’m going to keep doing it”. All that happened without even being aware. I can look back now and see how it all played out in my head and then in actual, real life having fun. I was in the moment. I was living real life. I wasn’t analyzing every little thing wondering if it was truly fun. And it really didn’t following any method.
Not 2nd guessing yourself.
Not trying to create the perfect moment.
Not trying to create the perfect you.
Now THAT is fun.
